Arnora ponders: How does one dominant ask to, or generally communicate interest in, playing with another dominant's submissive?
La Grande Dame replies:
In some respects, I approach this like borrowing someone's car.
I think one approaches the owner - Compliments them on their excellent taste in vehicles; the fine lines and (if heavily made-up) the paint job.
If the vehicle has a number of miles on it, I think it's permissible to talk in terms of "classic" - If the upholstery is a little worn, try to focus on how good the condition is. Make small talk - "How does she handle in the wet?" - "Is the suspension firm or a little bouncy?" - "What is she like when it comes to cornering?"
Such small talk may inspire the owner to offer, "Why don't you take her for a spin?". As with any unfamiliar vehicle, it's not a bad idea to have the owner sit in the navigator's seat.. at least until you get a sense of its particular quirks.
Many people don't like having a co-pilot. Personally, I feel it's prudent. You never know if you're going to hit a pothole - So it's good to have the owner around to help fix a flat.
Although this may be stating the obvious - I never drive someone else's car as hard as I drive my own. You never know when the clutch is going to give out. Much as I love driving cars, I'm not wild about repair and maintenance.
Your Mileage May Vary,
Lady Nichola