Dominants should be Teacher, Friend, Lover, Nuturer. When they achieve those, they have the potential to be a Master. A Master puts his sub's needs first because without that sub He is not a Master, his being is less without her. She adds to his strength, supporting him when he needs it. She adds to his wisdom because her experiences and perceptions differ from his. Both slave and Master are two halves of a coin, neither more important than the other, both needing the other to be whole. - John and kestrel
Good friends sent me this statement recently. It was sent at an opportune time - at a time where my focus was skewed. While what they said may not pertain specifically to me or anyone for that matter, their words helped me turn towards a different set of thoughts - about celebrating what one can have when different equals find each other.
He will be my Teacher when I want to learn, but he will never do my learning for me. He will share his knowledge with me, and help me turn that into a beautiful new experience.
He will be my Friend and care about my life, but he will not shield me from reality. He will stand by me when I need someone to lean on, making sure that he will not become a crutch, and remind me that my own strength will help me face challenges that life offers.
He will be my Lover because it will be about our mutual pleasure. He will never sacrifice either of our pleasures for the sake of the other's satisfaction. He will help me develop a bond that is pure, beautiful and completely natural between two people.
He will be my Nurturer because He sees a side of me that needs help in coming out, but he will never let me rely on him to be more than I can be on my own. He will not let me settle for less than I can be because he encourages me to believe in myself as much as he believes in me.
I will add to his strength because he trusts me, but I will never crowd him. He will know that I will stand by him through sunshine and rain. I will know that he is strong on his own, and will celebrate that he is stronger because of me.
I will add to his wisdom because he respects me. I bring a different perspective to the things we both see and will add a new dimension to his experiences and thoughts. He will recognize that I make his life fuller by sharing what I know and believe.
I will be better because of him. He will be better because of me. We are different halves that will become part of the same coin - so rare that this coin will be, without question, the only one of its kind.
dove