You are an experienced Dominant/Top/Master/Whatever and have had the pleasure of being asked by someone to introduce them to a new experience with which You are very skilled. Examples might be a whipping scene, canes, cuttings, needle play or whatever. They've never tried it and they've asked You to introduce them to it. You look them in the eye and decide that yes, You are willing to do this for them.
First Reaction: "Damn, I'm good!"
OK, now calm down, squeeze Your head back into Your hat and realize a few things about this situation. You are being asked to take someone by the hand and share something with them that they may not truly understand. They may have some ideas of what You're about to do with them but how valid are those ideas and preconceptions really? Before You lift cane/whip/needle to flesh You should first understand just what it is that they think You are going to introduce them to. Ask questions.
What does the single tail mean to you?
Why do you want to feel needles?
What do you think is the closest experience you've felt to what you are asking Me for?
Why are you asking Me?
When they answer be sure they give you their answers. Not the answers you give them or the answers they know will please you but THEIR answers. If they give You 3 sentences wait until they give 2 more. Be patient and be insistent. If they don't know what they are looking for don't offer multiple choices because then they will choose from Your list and that isn't what You need. Trust Me, they do know what they are looking for or they wouldn't be asking You. They might not want to give the "wrong" answer and blow their chance. If they cannot express even a basic understanding of what they are asking for then they probably are not ready for this. No answer is always the wrong answer but it is pretty much the ONLY universally wrong one.
you came to Me little girl. Answer My questions or this isn't going to happen. No pressure. <smiles pleasantly>
Talk to them about safety and about levels of intensity. Talk to them about marks and about after care. Make sure everybody understands (You included) where this scene is going to go and what they want to get out of the experience. This can be a very Service Top situation for You since it is often the use of the implement or technique itself which is the focus of the scene rather than the interplay between the two of you. If that works for You, great. That doesn't mean You have to do it nor that You are in a hurry. You are still in control and You decide if this is going to happen.
Do it right. This is important. This person is trusting You to take them somewhere they have never been before. Make it a good experience and You are opening doors for them. Screw it up and those and other doors may close for them for a long time.
When the scene starts communicate a lot. An introduction to something new like this can take a lot more processing for them than their usual sort of experience so keep them talking and approach it from different directions:
How does that feel on a scale of 1 to 10?
Tell Me how much you are loving this.
What shade of green are you right now?
If a train is leaving Montreal at a speed of 55 miles per hour.. OK, maybe not that one.
A scene like this is often with a partner You have not had much experience with so reading their reactions can take more effort and focus than usual and You may have to push them to communicate when they would rather just float away. To heck with that.. get your id back here and answer My questions. After a while You will get a feel for where they are at and can focus more on the technique. Push it a little and see how they deal with it. How they process and handle the sensations. Let them go with the flow a bit more but continue to monitor closely.
When the scene is done and everybody is happy and yummy or happy and crying or just happy, more talking, more questions:
How did that feel?
How wasn't that what you expected?
No you can't have more and get off My leg.
Follow-up later as well and see what sort of after effects they have experienced. Their head and body have gone through something new and You should help them to process that. They don't know what is "normal" to feel and it can be hard for them. If possible You might even arrange for them to discuss it with someone else You have shared the experience with in the past and they can compare notes. Just don't let it turn into a contest about who came more times.
I am an intensely D/s oriented Dominant and I love the flow of power between Myself and My girl but I also enjoy sharing what I know. I share with other Dominants who want to learn to do what I do and I share with submissives who want to experience some of it. That said, I won't always share with strangers and I don't ever feel I HAVE to do anything for anyone. It can be hard to ask for something like that and I know that but again.. it isn't My job to make this easy.
If it were easy, anybody could do it.
Achilles