So, fellow overthinkers and navelgazers, here's one for you....
I recently found myself in a situation wherein a villager witnessed a small act of service between a Dominant and a submissive in a vanilla setting. His response was to ask the Dominant "what's your secret?" (translates to "how do I get someone to do that for me?") It got me thinking.
What *is* the secret? While what we do might be a tad more formalized, certainly expressions of respect are not the exclusive right of kinksters. Neither is service. We probably don't even have the market cornered on obedience. Yet, this isn't the first time I've encountered a vanilla person who has expressed envy of these aspects of a D/s relationship.
So, the questions of the day are these. If you're a Dominant, how do you motivate and inspire these things? If you're a submissive, what motivates and inspires you in this regard? What is different about a D/s relationship that inspires us to do things, even if they aren't overtly kinky, that we wouldn't dream of doing in a vanilla relationship? What's your secret?
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